» BBTW 18
A getting to know you list–share all the places you’ve lived (and if you want to, how you got there, and why you left). Bonus points for expanding on whether you plan to stay where you are now, or if you have a dream location you still want to get to.
-Birth to 18 (Apr. 1982-Aug. 2000): Norman, OK
My parents were high school sweethearts and bought the house my mom still lives in (they divorced when I was 3) a year or so before I was born. I have lots of relatives still in the Oklahoma City area, including my parents, my grandparents, my siblings, a niece and two nephews, and some of my aunts, an uncle, and some cousins.
-18-21 (Aug. 2000-Dec. 2003): Aurora/Denver, CO
I moved to the Denver area and in with a relative because I wanted to be away from Oklahoma (that will be funny in a minute) and a bit more independent. I met Jim and we fell in love. We started dating in 2002 and got married in 2003. He joined the Air Force two months after we got married (LONG story), left for basic training in San Antonio, then graduated in November and went to technical school. In December 2003 I moved to be with him while he was in tech school.
-21 (Dec. 2003-Mar. 2004): Biloxi, MS
Jim got to tech school in November and I moved to be with him after I finished my semester in Aurora. He was there four months. I was there three.
-21-24 (Mar. 2004-Mar. 2007): Altus, OK
This is why I said it would be funny. Less than four years after I swore off Oklahoma for life I was back. We had VERY few options when Jim got out of tech school; the class that graduated the week before him got all of the good assignments, jerks. The only person that would switch him was going to North Dakota, and while in retrospect that would have been okay, we weren’t really up for it at the time. It turned out to be a good assignment. We had a lovely group of friends in Altus, and my family was only ~2.5 hours away when Jim went to Iraq in 2005 (for five months).
-24-27 (Mar. 2007-Jan. 2010): Fussa, Tokyo, Japan
In February 2007 we were assigned a four-year tour to Guam. We were super excited, but my history of depression deterred us from going (small hospitals, lack of staff, overreacting psychologists who more or less tricked me into believing I was suicidal, documented it, and then used it against me). We were diverted to Japan instead, and it was supposed to be a four-year tour. After our loss in November 2009 we were, through the magical help of my amazing OB (he’s in private practice in Sacramento now if you need a new OB/GYN!), able to get an assignment back to the States. Our options at that time were limited because the type of assignment we were given (humanitarian) was supposed to be to somewhere we had a support system. Since Jim’s family is spread out, we went to Oklahoma. Again.
-27-31 (Jan. 2010-May 2013): Norman, OK
My hometown. Where our healing happened. Where Eriana came to join our family. Where we still own a home. (It was always supposed to be temporary; I’m still not entirely sure why we thought buying a house was a good idea.) Jim got out of the Air Force in June 2010, on a special educational… thing that said if he was enrolled in college full-time he could get out of the Air Force early. So he did. He went back to school for awhile. I was working, and then Eriana was born, and Jim was working from home as a development consultant, and then he got a really good job so I quit my crappy one, and then his really good job turned out to be a good amount of money for a really awful job, and then we started looking elsewhere, so we could leave.
-31-??? (May 2013-indefinite): Portland-ish, OR
When Jim got a job here we had an apartment, a plan, and were packed up and moved in three weeks. And we love it. Our apartment might not be ideal, but it’s a short-term thing. We may still own a house in Oklahoma, but we hope that won’t be forever. I’m able to finish my current degree. Jim really likes his job, Eriana is in a great school, and we love the city and everything around it. We plan to be in this area forever. But as you can see we are sort of nomadic (“He thinks you said gonad.”), so we may not be. But that’s the plan. And I think both of us are pretty sick of picking up and moving our life all over the place.
A visit to the Cascades (Mount Hood in the background).